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Parents... Live a Little

October 18, 2018

Razberry Kids - Parents with kids can live a little

We live in uncertain times in so many respects, and really you can spend days and watch 100s of documentaries trying to tease out the hows and whys……but pretty simply we live in world with too many people. For me its that simple. #metoo has been an eye opener or at the very least uncovering of a world we were all aware of, and sadly to scared or entwined or accepting to point out, social media has made most world events both small back garden events to million women marches easily viewed; readily scrutinised and open for constant debate and criticism. The 15 minutes of fame has never been more relevant, a video can throw anyone or thing into a brief moment of infamy or fame. But all boils down to the same, lots of people; access to instant sharing; uploading and too many people with too much time.

As parents and people we can open ourselves to incredible comments and even threats related to our opinions, actions or reactions. An email yesterday contained a link to a video of a Jenner baby scooting around in a baby-walker, an innocent sharing of a common worldwide, and yes less than ideal toddler pastime, and the anger this clip had created world wide. Lets happily accept the Kardashian/Jenner world is lived with great financial gain in the public domain, and hence like any “job” it will draw the ire of some left,right, centre opinion holder(s) without reference, just attack and retreat. Its what parenting is about today, over committed, frightened and most often criticised ideas and ideals.

The general anxiety in society and growing in children of all ages, is a reflection on stress that starts before conception, the pressure to reproduce in a society where work and later marriage age, means lower fertility; not to mention the chemicals and poisons surrounding us and in our foods….but hey lets not get the vegans started.

The anxiety of a single sperm hurtling through a sticky vagina with dose of viagra on it tail and a multi focal Clomid over stimulated ovary offering up a host of eggs, means preconceptually there is immense pressure to perform to win …..we are producing adrenaline fueled babies into an overpopulated world. And then we have to parent. While an older generation who raised us on Donnatal and bottles, with a cigarette hanging form their lips cannot comprehend the non sleeping baby…” close the door and let him cry it out”…..”give him solids he is already 2 months old” are shouting from the Contented Little Baby Book right wing corner and from deep left with a swift childless uppercut the we would never advisory board sprout forth the gems of the perfect parent plan……” never say no, in fact never say never and remeber a fever and snot and diarrheoa are natural expulsions of human grief ….let them flow” ……”we will never not be in physical contact with our child for the first 21 years of its life (we will also never deem to judge its sex through physical attributes), connection s everything”. Advise is not always free, it is doled out for a good dollar at seminars some sensical some not, at baby clinic and antenatal classes, by nurses, doctor and even pharmacists; mostly tainted by experiences bad and old and often smudged by memories that are designed to allow further  procreation. Views can be so diverse that literally night is day and no is yes, it’s terrifying for so many young parents and the fear of failure is cemented by the theories of damaging a child for life, and the constant glare and comparisons made on social media. So what do you do?

Is gut feel or instinct sufficient, or do you need to seek advice, and from whom and which books should you read ?…..Many articles support GUT FEEL in medical assessment but this is further determined by experience and training, and as is clear from the world population explosion, there is no licence or level of education required to reproduce. Though better planning  and a more aging Primup(first baba) population seems to support the thought given  around procreation;  teenage and unplanned pregnancies are still very common and a blessing of an ever horny human group, so experience is not a given in parents both single, double or…multiple.

No matter how you manage your family and children there will be a contrarian view, those who are too “strict” are told to relax and enjoy the madness and mayhem and those more laissez fait approach are asked where the routine is to assist in organising the immature, some what schizoid brain! As with so many avenues of life, “horses for course” with a heap of common sense is a pretty good combo for raising kids……not RAISING THEM RIGHT  nor LEFT,  but just raising them, while still making room for parental SELF and relational else. Terran Williams of Thedudedad.com wrote a stunning peace on why he/we are not leaving south africa for our children!

We all need to live a little, and not just live for our littles, sure we will need to make changes and sacrifices, we all do for work and friends and eductaion and surely having kids and the joys they bring will allow a little more selflessness with  greater reward. But life needs to go on and be lived and loved and appreciated as a person, a coupe and as groups. From preconception; through pregnancy; the birth (hypno, cutto or beyond) and into the lives of ourselves and our Kids lets try and relax a little, trust some instinct and just ENJOY. Advice as the say is something everyone has, much like an asshole, and should be taken with a  pinch of lube! Trust a few sensible souls and more importantly trust self. Back Home

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